The beauty and bleakness of "Fake Plastic Trees" was brought home to me recently as I reflected on Mark Sayers' excellent book "The Trouble With Paris" (my book of the year) having just watched "Alesha: Look but Don't Touch" on BBC 3. I was reminded again of much of what Mark talks about in his book, namely that much of what we aspire to isn't actually real. It is hyper-reality.
I thought about how so often many want to look as good as the person or celebrity on the cover of a glossy magazine, and more than that, we want to have the kind of life that we are told that they live.
The only problem is that they don't actually look like that or have the life we read about.
Most of it is fake. Literally.
Fake fake smile, fake smooth skin, fake agelessness, and in some cases fake happiness.
I knew that most photographs in magazines were manipulated, but had no idea that, with the exception of when they want a celebrity to look awful, the photos are all re-touched. More than that, in the documentary Alesha was told that she would stand out if her picture was unaltered- and not in a good way. It seems that we can spot reality a mile away and we don't like it.
We want to, but it would mean that the fairy tale we can so often aspire to is exactly that- a fairy tale. People in their mid thirties and beyond have wrinkles. If you drink tea, coffee of a can of fizzy pop it will stain your teeth. And the celebrity who is always at every party may actually feel as insecure and lonely as the next person. Worse than all that, not only do so many of us aspire to the fantasy, but we can often allow it to affect the way that we look at real people who do age, have teeth that don't almost blind you and don't look fantastic first thing in the morning.
When you think about it in the cold light of day it is completely insane.
So why do we do it? Why do we allow ourselves to be sucked in? To believe in the myth of eternal youth and the lie that fame and fortune make you happy? I think it is because the reality is too painful.
We are all getting older. We are all going to die. No amount of tooth whitening, botox or surgery can change the facts. And we don't want to face the painful truth that life for most of us isn't what we dreamed it might be, or worse still, can be droll and mundane at times. And it all seems so hopeless.
Except of course that it isn't hopeless. We have been offered an invitation by Jesus to live in a reality that can begin now and go on for all eternity. This life is just the prologue. We have been invited to join his dance. A dance that will beat to different drum. That speaks of truth, beauty and of love that knows no bounds and is unconditional- of a wild and dangerous freedom.
It will not all be plain sailing- it will be tough, challenging, painful and filled with joy. A life that is beyond anything we could possibly imagine.
And it will be real.
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